20 Coaching Tips for Managers

For most managers, providing feedback to a direct report is an event that is avoided unless it is absolutely necessary. By then it is often too late. The result of not providing timely feedback is low employee performance and morale. Our research has shown that most employees feel that they do not get enough feedback from their managers (both reinforcing and redirecting).

Managers need to be good coaches in order to effectively resolve problems and motivate their employees. We recommend that managers who lack these skills attend a Performance Coaching course that gives them the knowledge and practice that they need to achieve competency in this area. In the meantime, you can share the following list that provides some practical advice for coaching others.

20 Tips for Giving Feedback

  1. Find a neutral, comfortable, and safe climate to provide feedback.
  2. Connect with the person before jumping in to coaching.
  3. When giving feedback, describe the situation: What you saw happen, and the consequences as you saw them.
  4. Deliver the message in a direct and straight way, without sugar coating or beating around the bush.
  5. Point out the impact the person's behavior has had on you and others.
  6. After giving feedback, listen attentively to the other person without interrupting.
  7. Allow the other person to express feelings and emotion without becoming emotionally hooked yourself.
  8. Ask the person for a more effective course of action.
  9. Set specific goals and follow up.
  10. State the consequences of the ineffective behavior.
  11. Seek to learn from the experience, rather than to find someone to blame.
  12. Before concluding, restate the points discussed and your agreement for the next steps.
  13. Maintain strict confidentiality with personal or sensitive information.
  14. Develop a relationship of trust and cooperation with the other person as a result of giving feedback.
  15. Do NOT speak for others or pass on others' feedback.
  16. Do NOT exaggerate by using words like "always" or "never" unless they convey their literal meaning.
  17. Do NOT use cynicism or sarcasm to make your points.
  18. Do not break your feedback in the form of a question, such as "Do you think that you can …?"
  19. Do NOT belabor your points or do most of talking.
  20. Do NOT attack the person. Focus on the desired behavior.

Becoming a good coach requires practice and time. These tips can help managers become more confident in their ability to handle coaching situations. It is important to remember that most employees want (and need) feedback from their managers. Studies show that good coaching leads to increased morale, better performance, and lower turnover.



Source by Juan Riboldi

The Top Ten Tips to Taking Matching Tests

Learning how to maximize your scores on matching tests is simple and will significantly increase your test scores. Matching sections remain the staple of teacher-constructed tests from elementary school through college. Here are the tips to "ace" any matching section on your next test.

1. Read all answer choices before selecting an answer. Test-takers frequently say that this strategy helps eliminate rushing though a test and answer impulsively.

2. Try to predict the correct answer before you look at the choices offered. This will provide a mind-set for evaluating the answer choices before you begin to answer. This process also helps to unlock your prior knowledge about the subject gained from test study and life experience.

3. Match the easy ones first and cross off to use the process of elimination. Getting rid of answer choices will make the selection process quicker, especially if the matching section is long.

4. The beginning of the numbered match column tend to match the beginning of
the alphabetical matching column. Consider this fact when selecting answer choices. If there are two alphabetical answers under consideration, and one is in the same beginning section as the numeric answer choice, select that one.

5. The ending of the numbered matching column tenders to match the ending of the alphabetical matching column. If there are two alphabetical answers under consideration, and one is in the same ending section as the numeric answer choice, select that one.

6. Look for grammatical clues to help match. For example, singular must match singular and plural must match plural; also verb tenses must match.

7. The answer should match the language of the test problem or question (positive to positive, negative to negative, grammar, singular or plural, vocabulary).

8. Two close-sounding or looking answers such as "quotient" and "quotation" or 22 and 222 tend to mean that one of the answers is correct.

9. On math tests, if answers cover a wide range, choose the one in the middle.

10. Finally, make sure to guess, if not sure of your answer choice.



Source by Mark Pennington

Ten Tips to Change Your Drinking Habits

If you would like to change your drinking habits, AA and total abstinence are not your only options. Research from the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism shows that the majority of people who change their drinking habits do so without AA or rehab. Many decide that quitting completely is their best option, but just as many, if not more, resolve their problems by cutting back or becoming safer drinkers.

1) Safety First

If you have engaged in any unsafe behaviors when drinking alcohol, such as drunk driving, unsafe sex, drunk dialing or any of a host of others, there a is a way to help you to avoid this in the future. Get a sheet of paper and make a list of the risky behaviors you have engaged in and rank them in a hierarchy–remember that it is most important to avoid the riskiest behaviors first. Then make a written plan to avoid your high risk behaviors before you ever take the first drink. For example, if you want to drink at a bar, take a taxi there so that you will have to take a taxi home. You can’t drive if your car isn’t there. Remember: think before you drink. It is always a good idea to put safety first. The life you save may be your own.

2) Decide What Kind of a Drinker You Want to Be

Many people find that quitting alcohol altogether is their best option. It does not matter how much or how little you drink, anyone can make the choice to abstain completely from alcohol. Others find that moderate drinking is their best goal and they will choose to have a goal of drinking moderately and never becoming intoxicated. Even those people who are unwilling or unable to refrain from drinking to intoxication at times can work at becoming safer drinkers by planning ahead. Safer drinking can be an important harm reduction goal for these individuals, since any plan to be safer is always an improvement over unsafe drinking. Safer drinking, reduced drinking, or abstinence from alcohol are all legitimate harm reduction goals and they are all better than making no change at all. Also remember that your goal is not set in stone–many people who choose goals of safer drinking or reduced drinking decide later that switching to abstinence is their best bet. Life changes and it is good to be flexible and change with it.

3) Add Some Non-Drinking Days

Many people find that having several alcohol-free days each week helps them to keep their habit under control. If you have been drinking every day for a long time you might find that adding in even one non-drinking day each week can help you to get started on your change plan. Feel free to go at your own pace in adding alcohol-free days into your week. Warning: If you have been drinking heavily every day for a long time you may have alcohol withdrawal if you stop all at once. If you begin to have withdrawal symptoms when you stop drinking then it is safest to either taper off slowly, to check into a detox, or to get some medications from your doctor to help you with alcohol withdrawal.

4) Count and Chart How Much You Drink

One of the best ways to get a handle on your drinking is to count your drinks and keep a daily record on a calendar or some other type of drinking chart. To keep an accurate record of how much you drink you will need to learn what a standard drink is. In the US this is one twelve oz beer at five percent alcohol or one five oz glass of wine at twelve percent alcohol or one and a half oz of 80 proof booze. One drink in a bar can contain up to half a dozen standard drinks so beware of this when charting your drinks. Practice measuring at home to get a feel for how much a standard drink really is. Write down your drink numbers on your calendar every day; if you have an abstinence day then write down a zero. Many people find that the act of charting in itself helps them to cut back.

5) Make a Drinking Plan

You can use the same calendar where you chart your drink numbers to plan how many drinks you will have in a given day. For example, you might want to reserve every Sunday for making your drinking plan for the week to come and write down which days will be alcohol-free and how many drinks you intend to have on your drinking days. Some people might want to have the same plan every week and will choose to write it down just once. For example, a person may choose to drink safely at home every Saturday night and abstain the other six days of the week. There are as many different possible drinking plans as there are people so feel free to make the plan which is right for you.

6) Make a Pros and Cons List

Get out four sheets of paper. On the first write out the pros of your current drinking habits and on the second write out the cons. On the third write out the pros of your intended change and on the fourth write out the cons. Don’t be afraid of saying that there are positives about alcohol; if you try to repress the positives they will just stay in your subconscious and cause you trouble later on. If you get this out into the open now you can recognize it and you can find other positive things to substitute for the benefits you get from alcohol. Feel free to do the pros and cons list frequently–every time you write these out it will strengthen your resolve to change.

7) Take a Break from Drinking

Some people find that the best way to jump start a change in their drinking habits is to have a non-drinking period. Taking a week or two or even a month or two off from drinking can be a great help in changing your relationship with alcohol for the better. A stretch of alcohol-free time will give you a chance to encounter all your old drinking situations without alcohol–and you will learn new ways to cope with these situations without booze.

8) Make a List of Ways to Have Fun without Drinking

There are unlimited ways to have fun without alcohol ranging from swimming to knitting to the New York Times crossword. Get out a sheet of paper and make a list of fun things that you can do without alcohol and keep it handy to refer to when you get the urge to break your drinking plan.

9) Accentuate the Positive

Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t stick to your plan perfectly. Research shows that most people don’t get it perfect the first time. Making a change usually takes several tries and there are some slip ups on the way to achieving your change goal. If you beat yourself up over a small slip you can make yourself so miserable that you want to drown your sorrows in booze and you can wind up going on a major bender as a result. The people who achieve success in the long run are the ones who praise themselves for every positive change. If you decide to take a month off from booze and make it to ten days then make sure to praise yourself for those ten days of abstinence from alcohol–you will never lose them. Don’t waste a lot of time beating yourself up over the fact that you didn’t make the full thirty days, get right back on the plan, whether you decide to finish out the remaining twenty days, go for thirty consecutive days, or go for a whole new plan.

10) Have a “Plan B” in Place

Slip ups are the norm when people try to change their habits; only the minority make the change completely the first time. But having one piece of chocolate cake doesn’t mean that you have to eat the whole cake. One drink does not have to mean one drunk. If you are planning to abstain but slip up and decide to have a drink then make sure to do it safely; if you are out in your car then take your car home first and take a taxi to the bar. Have your plan B in place so that you continue to remain safe even if you do slip up. A backup plan is essential whether your goal is safer drinking, reduced drinking, or quitting altogether.

Always remember that better is better. Any improvement you make over your old drinking habits, no matter how small, is a success!



Source by Kenneth L Anderson

Field Herping Techniques & Tips

This is a quick guide to different field herping techniques that are quite common and productive for field herpers across the globe. As well as providing a few different techniques for you to employ, I’ve also added a quick “tips” section that deals with weather conditions, timing, and some different topics that need to be dealt with by most herpers.

Techniques

Flipping: Flipping debris can be extremely effective when looking for herps and is the method that most field herpers employ regularly. Flipping can refer to anything from natural cover like logs and rocks to artificial cover like tin, wood, and trash (that’s right, trash!) Snake and other herps love to utilize cover because it gives them the sense of security they need, and it is easy for them to thermoregulate by hiding below it during the hot hours of the day. But, flipping seems to be extremely good during the spring and fall seasons as a rule of thumb. Caution should be taken when flipping because you never know what is going to be under the next log you flip and you don’t want your hands to be the first thing to find out. When flipping, remember that as you flip debris you are changing microhabitats and that you should try to put everything back EXACTLY where you found it to keep these vital microhabitats intact.

Bark Ripping: Bark ripping is basically a way of searching for milk snakes and other small terrestrial animals that love to squeeze between the trunk and bark of downed trees. You do exactly what it sounds like, taking a potato rake or snake hook and ripping the bark away from the tree to reveal what lies beneath. This is not a tactic that I don’t employ much because, ethically, I have a problem with it. I feel that caution should be taken when doing this because you have to remember that there is another microhabitat living between the bark and the tree and when you are destroying it, you are destroying that hide for another herp and any microhabitat that may have been thriving before you came along.

Hiking in Habitat: If properly done, this can render a lot of finds in the field. It takes a lot of preparation and research to strategically hike in habitat looking for visual encounters, and finds can be very spaced out with lots of walking and work in between. I personally use this method a lot and have had moderate luck with it by researching what types of habitat my quarry is going to be located in. Most of the habitat you’ll want to walk will be where two habitats merge like a tree line; the perimeter of ponds, streams, and lakes; rock outcrops; and sloughs seem to be very productive in my experience. I find it enjoyable just to walk out in nature as well and if you want to hike first and herp second this could very well be the choice for you!

Road Cruising: This is considered the lazy man’s herping, and can get very expensive with the current gas prices. Basically you want to try and locate very remotely driven roads that pass through good habitat. Drive slowly because your target is normally small and can be difficult to see. I like to try and keep it around 20mph, but you have to figure out what is the right speed for your eyes to adjust and search effectively. I also like to turn my fog lights (low beams) on because I feel that in my car it lights up the street that much better. Generally the best times to road cruise are in the spring and fall, right at dusk/twilight. Road cruising also seems to produce more finds in the southern US than other places due to the extreme temperatures during the day and the considerably cool nights during the spring and fall. If you are wanting to road cruise for amphibians, going during or after light rains is perfect and has produced a lot of finds for me in the past. I would suggest giving road cruising a try, as it deserves a very proficient place in field herping, but if you really want to experience herps in their natural environment then this probably isn’t the method for you.

Dip Netting: Dip netting is a technique that is specifically used for finding amphibians that reside in shallow water. You take a net on a pole and basically walk the shore line and skim the shallow water for herps. I don’t do this much as I don’t like to carry the net out with me, but it is one of the most efficient ways of finding many different species of salamanders and definitely deserves a place in the field herping methods. There are many people who are very skilled with this method, and it takes time and practice to truly learn how to dip net efficiently. The one note I’d like to add is that care should be taken to check the net often as you can catch a herp quickly and drown it by dragging it through the water for a long period of time.

Funnel Traps: Funnel traps are a good survey tool for various herps, but are generally used for snakes more than anything. Normally these traps can only be used on private land unless a permit is obtained for surveying purposes on public land. A funnel trap is constructed of a wooden box with hole on each side. The top should also have a hinged lid of some sort so that the trapped animals can be retrieved safely and easily. Then a ¼ to ½ inch chicken wire is normally used to make a funnel that the snake can pass into, but can’t get back out of is created at the four holes that you created on each side of the trap. From that you should be as much black, tarp fencing as you can and make equally long strings of it out from the traps so that animals that run into the fence have the option of going around the fence, or directly towards the trap. These traps should be checked often as the snakes can get cooked in the sun, dehydrate, or eat one another if they are there for too long. Many people like to make sure the trap is shaded and they’ll put water containers into the traps to try and reduce the fatal importance the problems present. I have not used funnel traps, but if you’re trying to conduct a survey of an area or find a targeted species this is a great way to approach it.

Tips

Time of Day: The time of day that you go out looking for herps can be very important and, many times, will determine whether or not you have a successful day. If 7 a.m. and 7 p.m. are your favorite times of the day then you may very well be cut out for field herping. During the early morning when temperatures are just starting to rise and at twilight when the sun is setting is when most herps are actively searching out food and their next hide, so this is the time to find them. During the summer, the only times that will most likely be suitable for herps to be out and about will be during the early evening and into mid-morning because afternoon temperatures would kill them. During spring, however, I have had a lot of luck between 1-5 p.m. on days when the high reaches about 76F. I find lots of snakes basking in the warmth of the sun, and this seems to be the perfect temperature to find many diurnal snakes during the months of March and April. Road cruising is normally best at dusk, and when twilight hits I normally like to be at the road that I plan to cruise that night. So, important times to remember are morning and twilight if you want to have the best luck finding herps.

Time of Year: The best times of the year for field herping seems to take place during the spring and fall months when the rains are more frequent and they daytime highs are not at an extreme. I have found most of my herps during the months of March, April, May, June, September, October, and November. During the early spring and late fall months are when flipping natural cover and road cruising tend to produce the most herps for myself, and habitat hikes produce a lot of finds for me during these times too. Artificial cover tends to produce a lot of finds during all of these months as they are normally better heat conductors or insulators than natural cover and provide better cover when temps begin to rise or drop to more extreme levels. During the late spring and early fall months the technique that has worked best for me has tended to be habitat hiking later in the evening with lamps because many herp species are very active at this time and you’ll see a lot more of them crossing your path than you would imagine. As a final note, it is obvious that in extreme cold and heat snakes and other herps cannot survive very well outside and field herping is very difficult if not impossible during these times. With that said, many people in the South and in California have found herps during the winter months, and I have had luck in the North and Midwest during July and August where the midday temps don’t get quite as high.

Wet/Dry: Wet is always going to produce more than dry! That is just a field herping fact. The only time wet will be a detriment to your finds is when the microhabitats under natural or artificial cover are flooded or overly damp. Most species will not thrive in these conditions, but some amphibians find this perfect. But, if it is considerably or extremely dry outside, you’ll see your field herp finds drop off quickly. Most species will go into a state of “hibernation” during this time to conserve as much water as possible and survive the period of drought. During these times your best bet is to only check places in close proximity to a water source, or to wait until a rain comes because the herps will come out in full force. This is another reason why spring and fall are the best times of year because most precipitation comes during these months and the herps will be out and moving. Road herping can be phenomenal for finding herps after a good evening rain, and if you don’t need to get up early I would suggest hopping in the car and taking a drive if one of these light showers occurs because it will most likely pay off.

Moon Phase: Some field herpers swear by moon phase and wind speeds, but I haven’t seen much evidence that supports this case. It is documented that nocturnal species are not going to be very active during new moons or full moons because there is more light and thus, less cover for them to move under. I have seen some evidence that wind does have a factor however when it comes to road cruising because herps tend to avoid open spaces during winds over 10-15mph. I’ve still found plenty of herps in habitat during these winds, but road crossing during these gusts is almost null and I would suggest refraining from using this method and stick to places where gusts are blocked by trees and other natural barriers.

Where do I go?: The question I find most beginning field herpers ask is, “Where do I go to find herps?” Here is the best answer I can suffice, and this is how I went about getting into field herping and targeting certain species. The best way to find herp habitat is to contact people and do as much research as you can. Good places to start are field guides for your area and to contact people on various forums. There are many forums specifically dedicated to field herping, and most people are more than willing to share information with you for the area you’re in. Another great place to start is by contacting your local Parks & Wildlife department or Natural Conservation Museum. The receptionist may not be able to provide information, but normally somebody on staff is familiar with the local herps and more than willing to help out a novice herper in search of information. Public lands are normally easy to find (i.e. parks) but you need to make sure that herping is legal in these areas, and if you are planning to collect you need to make sure that it is legal or you have the permits necessary to collect native species. If you talk to these people enough and get into their circle, many times you can end up being asked to accompany herp surveys and help out if you are known to provide good records and ethical standards. Another great resource for scouting good herp habitat is Google Earth. This gives you an amazing topographical map that will tell you elevations and show you landmarks of interest that can really improve your field herping experiences. If you’ve contacted these places and are still having trouble you are always more than welcome to email me with inquiries and I’ll be more than happy to help you get started in the field in your area. My contact is pcruddock@ruddockreptiles.com.

Selecting Habitat: Selecting habitat can be made very simple with a little research on your target species and some time in Google Earth. I like to find habitat that has multiple habitats meeting in a close proximity so that I can walk these changes, and I like them to be near a good, constant water source so that I know it’s a good “oasis” for herps. Other good habitat tends to be rock outcrops on hills that face south or southwest because of the wind and sun exposure this direction receives tends to be more ideal. I normally herp more forested areas, grassy plains, creek bottoms, sloughs, and water sources more than other habitat and this seems to produce a good amount of targeted herps for my area. You just need to pinpoint the habitat that best fits your species (i.e. sandy or loose soil for pituophis and other fossorial species or woodlands and marshes for Agkistrodon) and look at maps for areas that you can access legally and fit these characteristics in your area. Remember, just because you didn’t find a herp the first time you try a spot doesn’t necessarily mean its bad habitat so check back from time to time and see if your initial feeling and research was correct.

Acquiring Hunting Property: Private property can be VERY useful for field herping and if approached correctly it can be easily acquired. NEVER GO ON PRIVATE PROPERTY WITHOUT PERMISSION!!! This can lead to serious confrontations that could end up with an angry farmer shooting at your, a ride in the back of a cop car, or worse if you’re unlucky. I grew up hunting in Iowa, and after watching people approach landowners for so long, I can assure you that it is very simple. Always approach landowners with courtesy and respect, and make sure that you state what you are requesting and what your intentions are with your found quarry. Most landowners will have no problem with what you are doing, and the more personable you approach the situation, the better the relationship is going to be. With a little conversation and possibly a cold drink, you can normally get a landowner to allow you on the land whenever you would like. A great thing about acquiring private property is if the owner allows you to, you can begin setting up your own “tin fields” which are just fields created out of roofing tin or sheets of plywood arranged strategically to provide good shelter for herps, thus better results for you. Once again, make sure that the owner is okay with you laying down tin in a certain area before you actually go about creating the field and getting yourself in trouble and possible kicked off the property for good.

Creating Artificial Cover: Artificial cover can be some of the most effective herping sites you can possibly make if they are constructed correctly. A good material to use is roofing tin because it is a good conductor of heat and it has a decent heftiness to it. Weight of the material is very important because herps like to be under something that is solid and secure and a light piece of balsa or a really thin sheet of metal doesn’t provide the type of cover they seek out most. When it comes to placing the material in the field, I like to find spots where two habitats collide and place artificial cover in these areas because most herps tend to be at these intersections. I also like to place cover so that some pieces are in the shade and some pieces are exposed to the sun so that the herps can thermoregulate between the different pieces. Another good way to provide artificial cover at different thermal gradients is by piling the cover at different levels so that the gradient is from the top to the bottom. Just make sure that when you search through this cover that you put the pile back just as it was to avoid disturbing microhabitats. After you have chosen a spot and placed your cover, it is best to wait a couple of months before the cover really start producing good finds. This allows the microhabitats to form under the cover, and a “moisture seal” is created between the ground and the cover that is desirable for herps. For this reason, you want to try and create several different tin fields so that you don’t over-herp a certain area and ruin the moisture seal that needs to develop. Over-herping can also create too many disturbances and animals will recognize when an area does not sustain the security they desire. This is only a brief introduction into creating tin fields and setting up your own AC is entirely up to you and what you are targeting with the cover. Locate some good habitat and try to set up some fields that will provide you with herps in years to come. Have some fun this season, and safe herping!



Source by Payton T Ruddock

Sex Tips and Tricks – 7 Hot Steamy Ways to a Hot, Sexy Evening!

Want some hot sex tip and trick to please your lover? Wondering exactly how to do it with terrific orgasms? You are not alone! At last, your lover is available to you tonight. The house will be empty. Even the neighbors are out of town.

You have the great time for a positive sexual experience. Both of you are in the mood but you want the experience to be extraordinary. But how will you go about making the night the most special? Relax! We have seven proven effective sex tips and tricks ready for you!

Sex Tip No: 1

Firstly, the trick to having good sex is to do with an empty stomach. If you are having dinner, make an attempt to have sex before eating. You want to be both hungry in mind and in body. Give yourself a little snack, take on a glass of wine and talk to your partner.

Really spend the time to get to know what your sex partner is thinking of. Then go to the bedroom for sex, avoiding the heavy meal and lethargy that often follows. You can get some energy with your small snack and save the gorging on dinner after you are sated in bed.

Sex Tip No: 2

Try this interesting surprise better sex tip. Send your partner out on a quick or easy errand and when he or she is gone, place a string or ribbon to the inside of the doorknob. Let the ribbon flow all the way to the bedroom where you will be waiting there for your lover. If you try this sex trick, chances are your lover will love the romantic surprise you give her!

Sex Tip No: 3

Besides the above sex tip and trick, remember to buy a new sex toy. Make it the one your partner will really love. Tie it up with a bow and put it under their pillow. Also think about trying out a new sexual lubricant for either of you to try or both.

Sex Tip No: 4

Consider trying a heightener. This is a product that does the sex trick of increasing the circulation of the genital organs. Increased circulation makes for increased sensitivity to touch and stimulation. Drugstores often have these kinds of products available to you. It can be used for a man or a woman for better sexual experience.

Sex Tip No: 5

Put on clean sheets, take a nice hot shower and ask your partner to join you in the shower. The sex trick is to soap each other up, touching each other all over so that you can have some nice foreplay in the shower.

Then dry each other off and take the next steps in bed. Some couples prefer to have sex in the shower itself. This is one of the great sex tips and trick you might want to consider heightening your orgasms.

Sex Tip No: 6

Be more vocal. Tell your lover exactly what you want to have them do to your body and then let your lover do the same and tell you what they want done. Being a better sex trick is to increase your sexual excitement, don’t be afraid to make noise through groaning or calling out your lover’s name. When you make sounds, you are heightening both your and your partner’s sense of arousal.

Sex Tip No: 7

Have a shared sexual fantasy. If you haven’t ever done this, try starting with a fantasy starring each other. Have a scene where you are naked on a beach or lying on a deserted island.

Many lovers find that their love life has gone stale or even sour. Use the above sex tip and trick to spark your love life back again so that you can enjoy the love scene together. When you have the time and the privacy to do it, use one or more of the above sex ideas to find new ways to be pleasurable with one another.



Source by Linda Scheifer

How to Please Your Man in Bed – 3 Mind-Blowing Tips That Will Drive Your Man Crazy!

I am very surprised how many women seem to have no idea how to please a man in bed. They often complain to me that their boyfriend is cheating on them or that the men they are after never want to see them again. Well that is mainly because they don’t know how to please a man in bed. It is that simple. I’m going to make it easy with you and share with you what turns a man on in the bedroom. Take a good note of this, because it will save your boyfriend from cheating on you or the men you sleep with disappearing.

Listed below is three mind-blowing tips on how to get your man super excited in bed:

  1. Sex From Behind: This is by far a man’s favourite sexual position. Do not underestimate how much a man loves this position in bed, a lot of women do. Some girls prefer not to have sex in this position and only let a man have sex with them in the common missionary position. Well for most men that position spells boring. Variety is needed besides the missionary position, but more importantly the behind position is exactly what turns men on! If you want to really please him in bed then give him your behind and he will love you for it!
  2. Riding Him On Top: Get on top of him and start to ride around his penis. Get good at this as men love this! Show him that you got moves and can move his penis in various positions while you are on top of him. This is something that drives men crazy. Men cannot stand a woman who just sits on top and does nothing and he has to to all the work. They love a woman who can take charge and move around while she is on top. Enjoy the ride!
  3. Oral Sex: A few surveys have shown that some men actually enjoy oral sex more than sexual intercourse. This gives you an illustration of how important this is to men! Many women avoid oral sex with men and by doing that they are making a big mistake. You need to go down on him if you really want to please him. Without doing it you will never fully please him. That is the fact of the matter.

Above was a snippet of how you can please your man in bed.



Source by Mark J Hamilton

Top 10 Travel Safety Tips

1. Know before you go: Government

Research destinations and ask yourself the following question: What are the main dangers of the country or countries that I will be visiting? Crime, natural disasters, health issues and political instability are all things to be considered. Study the UK FCO and Australian smart traveler sites, both great resources for travelers. Time spent planning and preparing is never wasted. Do not just look at the country, but specifically at where you will be, region, city and town.

2. Know a bit more before you go: Commercial

Research your destinations using commercial websites, interact on chat forums, advice pages and blogs. The websites Lonelyplanet and Bootsnall are great sources of information. Learn from others mistakes and experiences.

3. Minimize risk

List the main dangers you have found from your research in points 1 and 2 and then ask yourself one further question: How can I minimize these risks? It is not just identification of risks that's important. Learning how to react accordingly is vital. Professionals in all industries train constantly for what may happen, it should be the same for emergency preparedness when traveling. Consider taking a travel safety course.

4. Check insurance

Insurance may cost money that you do not think you can afford, but believe me, when you need it you will be glad you opt for it. Medical evacuation costs especially in more remote environments that you may find yourself in can easily reach into the hundreds of thousands of dollars. Check the small print over and over again and if in doubt check again.

5. Learn first aid

Off the beaten track travelers may find themselves in medical and first aid situations that they have to deal with themselves. Being able to care for yourself, friends and groups can significantly increase chances of survival in times of extremis. Learning how to identify, prevent or treat the basics such as heat illness, travelers diarrhea and mosquito borne diseases are extremely important. Other life saving skills such as CPR and hemorrhage control should also be considered, especially if exploring in remote environments. Consider taking a first aid course or at a minimum learning the basics prior to travel.

6. Be Gray

Blend into your environment. On our travel course we call this 'being gray' and this principal focuses on not standing out unnecessarily. What we mean is try and do what the locals do. Learn the culture, customs, gestures and basic language. It is amazing how saying the basics of hello and thank you in the native tongue can help considerably. When volunteering this is especially important, it will endear you to the locals. Consider yourself as guests of the country or region and act respectively

7. Be patient

This is an underrated piece of advice. Traveling is all about getting to know the locals, seeing new things, experiencing new adventures and having the time of your lives. If one is patient, polite and generally nice then life just goes so much smoother. With patience, comes the ability to put up with perceived rudeness, inefficiency, delays, corruption and a whole variety of things that as travelers or volunteers we may not be accredited too. Things are done differently in different places, with patience we learn and we adapt.

8. Smile

If you are kind to people then 90% of the time they will reciprocate. You smile they will smile back, if you are nice, they will also be nice. This opens so many doors to a volunteer, meeting people, learning about secret local spots off the beat track, meals with kind strangers and a host of other great experiences that come from interacting and being nice.

9. Never switch off

This is important especially because of the last two entries. Even though we will be patient, kind and nice we must at no times lose our situational awareness. That means never switching off your risk analysis. We should never walk around with our head in the clouds. It is vital to be aware of our surroundings at all times, to scan for danger and analyze risks constantly. This comes back to point 3. Minimize risk, through preparation, either by training or planning one should learn how to identify threats early.

10. Always wear a seatbelt

One of the largest risks to travelers in foreign countries is vehicular accident. Even when on a bus, wear a seatbelt. There are many other risks related with transportation. Buses, trains, boats, rickshaws, mopeds all have a huge list of inherent risks associated to their use. Research and prepare, but whatever you always wear that seatbelt.

This is just a basic list of tips that will help you stay safe while traveling abroad. Travel safety and security is a huge topic and one with many variables and standpoints.Traveling is one of the most amazing things you will ever do, enjoy it but always remember the number one rule of safe travel is the same as emergency care, think about number one.



Source by M Deane

Sperm Taste – 10 Simple Tips For Better Tasting Semen

Sperm taste is affected by what you eat, as are all secretions from the body.

It is a fact that your sperms taste can be improved and making your semen taste better, can be done with a few simple diet changes.

Diet has A major influence on sperm taste as it’s a secretion from the body like any other.

Just as your sweat can smell strongly after eating a heavily spiced meal your sperm will also reflect the spices in its taste.

The make up of sperm

Semen is made up of ninety percent (90%) seminal fluids including fructose (sugar) protein, and various trace minerals and nutrients.

The PH of semen is 7 and scientifically neutral, yet it tastes slightly acidic. Let’s take a look at the actual ingredients of semen.

A man’s ejaculate is actually only 1% sperm.

The rest is composed of various proteins, vitamins, sugars, salts, cholesterol, and water. All the extras are what protect, feeds, fuels the sperm in its journey.

As you can see in terms of semen’s composition, it’s fairly obvious that what you eat will make it taste better or worse!

Getting a sweeter taste

With sperm taste, the aim is to make it taste sweeter.

All men have a semen taste that is exclusive to them, but the major complaint on sperm taste is normally always the same:

It tastes bitter or salty; let’s look at how to make semen taste sweeter

10 Tips for better semen taste

Here then are 10 simple do’s and don’ts to improve the taste of your sperm and make your semen taste better and sweeter:

1. Cut out alcohol, caffeine, recreational drugs and nicotine- they’re all pollutants.

2. Drink lots of water 1 – 2 liters a day to flush out body toxins.

3. Fruit get plenty each day and sweeten your sperm taste

Pineapple, papaya cranberry, melons, mangos, apples grapes are all good choices. These fruits are high in natural sugars and offset the bitter taste.

4. Eat plenty of vegetables which are generally good for improving sperm taste.

5. While it is true vegetarians generally have better tasting sperm there are vegetables to avoid:

Any vegetables from the cabbage family big offenders also include Cauliflower, broccoli, or asparagus:

5. Cut red meat consumption this is one pf the main offenders when it comes to making sperm taste salty. Dairy produce such as milk and cheese also make sperm taste salty.

Make sure when you eat protein you get good quality lean protein such as chicken and turkey.

Fish is claimed by some to be an offender in terms of taste, but this seems to vary between individuals. Try it and see the affects before cutting it out, fish is a major part of a healthy diet, so don’t cut it out!

6. Avoid heavy spices such as Garlic and onions, they’re big offenders when it comes to sperm taste, as they have a high sulfur content.

7. Do not buy products that claim to make your semen taste better there is no evidence that they work.

Your semen can be made to taste better by overall changes in diet and lifestyle, it’s a complex formula and a good healthy diet has the biggest affect.

8. Parsley, wheatgrass, and celery are particularly recommended for sweeter semen taste, because of their high chlorophyll content.

9. Cinnamon, cardamom, peppermint and lemon are particularly recommended for making semen taste sweeter.

10. Avoid junk food, they’re loaded with chemicals and preservatives that pollute your body and your semen’s taste.

Try and eat food “from the earth” i.e. as naturally as possible. Also consider taking a zinc and selenium supplement, both are needed for healthy sperm and can make the taste better.

Finally, strong smelling semen may indicate an infection, so if your semen taste doesn’t change when you change your diet, you should consider a visit to the doctor.

Your aim with your diet is to eat one that helps your overall health and the above recommendations will not only make your semen taste better you will also feel fitter and healthier as well.

Keep in mind that you can eat some of the foods we don’t recommend for sperm taste.

You can enjoy red meat and the occasional spiced curry just keep in mind the following when considering sperm taste:

What you put into your body takes between 12 and 24 hours to secrete out and you should simply keep this in mind before eating and deciding whether you want a better sperm taste on that particular day or not!



Source by Sacha Tarkovsky

Win Roulette – 10 Essential Tips For Bigger Winnings!

The 10 tips below are all you need to win at roulette and win big.

Use them and you will have all the information you need to get the odds in your favor have some fun and win. Roulette is the perfect game for novices as well and fun for all.

Here are the only 10 tips you need to win at roulette:

1.Understand there is a house edge

This means that you can not remove it; you can only get the odds in favor of yourself as much as possible, but they pretty good odds for a game of chance.

2.Don't buy a system

As a roulette ball has no memory and each spin is random you can not apply a mathematical system.

Each is spin is independent of all others – There are better ways to win at roulette!

3.Play European Roulette

There is a choice of American wheel and the European wheel – The American wheel has an extra double 0 making the house advantage almost double the European wheel where the house edge is just 2.63%.

4.Know the odds

Use bets where the payouts mirror the stick ie black or red, odd or even. You play at just below even with the house and your money will last longer and you will have staying power.

Good bets to place to win at roulette are bets with lower odds, and avoid single number bets.

5.Know the best bet of all

To win at roulette you need to know the best bet of all and this is the bet on the European table known as the en prison bet, which is available on all even-money bets.

When the ball lands on 0, your bet remains on the table, (captured), for the next play.

If you are lucky enough to win on the next spin, you are not paid for the win, but you get to take your original bet back; so you only lose half your bet.

The House edge on even money bets with the en prison rule is only 1.35% – Making it the best bet to place.

6.Don't believe in streaks

For instance if the ball has landed on red for 20 times the chances of it falling on red next time are 50 – 50 and this is the same if it had landed on the same number 50 times in succession the odds are always 50 – 50.

7.Set your bankroll in advance

Once you have used your bankroll that's it – Quit.

It is also a good strategy to win at roulette, to have a level that when you have reached a certain level of winnings to quit the table and enjoy what you have made.

8.Have fun

While the best bets are the ones we have said, it's often nice to throw a different bet in for a bit of variety.

Roulette is probably the most exciting game in the casino and if you're not having fun and just want to make money play a boring game like blackjack!

9.Don't get emotional

Do not try and win back losses and do not get too excited when you win. Treat it as a fun game and one where you can win and if you do it is a bonus.

Emotional players always lose. To win at roulette you must approach the game with the right attitude.

10.Where to play

The online gaming revolution has seen more players than ever discover roulette but while playing online is fun, its even more fun in a casino!

Try and visit one and play in a real environment. Roulette is a glamorous thrilling, exciting game and nothing beats winning at roulette at the casino in front of others.

The above tips are all you need to win at roulette so go and enjoy the game above all else and hopefully you will win at roulette – Good luck!



Source by Sacha Tarkovsky

10 Tips for Positive Thinking – Tips for a Happier and Healthier Frame of Mind

If you’re down in the dumps for disproportionately long periods of time and you find yourself blaming the rest of the world for your misery, then perhaps a change of attitude is in order. These 10 tips for positive thinking may be able to give your outlook in life its much needed overhaul. So increase your chances for a more constructive perspective with these 10 tips for positive thinking:

1. Recognize negative thoughts as they take shape and bury them before they take root. If you feel your mood darkening again, put a stop to these dangerous musings before you succumb to them. Rule your emotions, don’t let your emotions rule you.

2. Hang out with people who think positive as well. This condition can be quite infectious.

3. Just as contagious is a negative mindset. So avoid people who tend to think negatively on a constant basis. After all, who wants to hang around naysayers all the time?

4. Work out and eat right. If you look good on the outside, it’ll be easier to feel good on the inside, too.

5. De-clutter. Surround yourself only with the things you love and that make you feel good–framed family photos, favorite books, potted plants, works of art, or whatever else that’s meaningful to you.

6. If people tell you you can’t do something, take that as a challenge and prove them wrong. Chances are, they themselves can’t do it or are too afraid to try and are simply bitter about it. If you show them it can be done after all, maybe they’ll even be inspired by your success. You can be a living tip for positive thinking to them.

7. Just when you’re about to blow your top for all the seeming misfortunes that befall you, remind yourself of all your blessings instead. This practice can be very sobering, indeed.

8. Be a volunteer or get involved in charity work. Not only will you realize the sheer number of people who have bigger problems than you do, but there is also such an emotional and even spiritual high to be experienced in helping others.

9. De-stress. You’re more likely to be cranky if you’re perpetually stressed out. So get away from it all and recharge.

10. Keep it up. Getting started is easy. It’s the maintenance that’s tricky. Make a habit out of thinking positively till it becomes an indelible part of who you are.

Follow these 10 tips for positive thinking and be successful in your search for a happier and healthier frame of mind.



Source by Michael Lee